Have your wedding plans changed but you’re unsure how to let your guests know? (And maybe how to uninvite some of them…?) Today on the blog we have Calgary Stationery Designer, Alissa from Plush Invitations, sharing her insight and advice on sending out wedding stationery during the pandemic, and what your options are in the different situations you may be facing.
What to do if…
Your original wedding plans have downsized to a Micro Wedding or Elopement (and you’ve already sent out Save the Dates or Invitations)
Send out a…
Change of Plans Card
How to *cringe* un-invite your guests… This isn’t the most pleasant of tasks, but it will need to be done, and thankfully the situation is definitely understandable. I would suggest sending out a Change of Plans Card in a scaled down, more simplified version of your original invitation style. You can do this either with a paper invite, or e-card, but I’m a believer that if you sent them a physical card to invite them, you should also send them a physical card noting your change of plans. The wording would be along the lines of:
We appreciate your love and support
In light of recent unforeseen circumstances,
and out of consideration for our family and friends
we have altered our wedding plans
our {date} wedding is cancelled
(optional:)
We look forward to celebrating with you in 2022
Details to follow
Be sure to be direct, you don’t want any miscommunication regarding the cancelled date. Also note, you’re not obligated to put your actual wedding/elopement details on this card.
Here’s a Tip:
If you’d like to share your minimony with your entire guest list, you can include a Details insert card that explains how to access a live-stream broadcast of the event, or a link to a website and/or email where guests can leave messages and view photos.
What to do if…
You are sticking with your initial plans for a larger wedding, but moving the whole shebang to the future (and you’ve already sent out Save the Dates or Invitations)
Send out a…
Change the Date Card
A Change the Date Card is essentially another Save the Date card. Keep the design along the same lines as what you’ve sent out before, but indicate the new date. You’ll include your names, location and new date. If everything about the wedding is the same, including venues and times, you could include the note: Previously noted times and locations still apply
You will still need to gather RSVP’s for this new date. So you will either need to include a mail back RSVP
card and envelope; or online RSVP details. If you are doing a digital Change the date, we would highly
recommend doing a wedding website, where your guests can review the information on your wedding (in
case they misplaced the original invite) and RSVP directly from your site.
and if you want you can…
Send Out a Whole New Invitation
You may want follow up the Change the Date card with a whole new Invitation with the new date. This is
a good idea if a lot of your wedding details have changed, i.e. you’ve had to change venues, or if your new date is considerably in the future.
What to do if…
You and your fiancé have decided to elope! (and you haven’t previously sent out Save the Date Cards or Invitations)
Send out an…
Announcement Card
On this piece, you’d announce:
“We Did it!” or “We eloped”
with your names, {date} and {location}
This is a nice piece to include a photo of you and your new spouse. Your loved ones will adore a sneak
peek into your big day. Who do you send an Announcement card to? Send this announcement to anyone who you would’ve invited to your wedding. Friends, relatives, work colleagues. Anyone you want to share the good news with.
If you are planning on a reception at a later date you can include details on this card, if under 9 months
away. If the reception is quite a ways out, I would add a line at the bottom of the invitation that says
something along the lines of:
Save the date of {new date} for our celebration. Details to follow.
Here’s a Tip:
If doing multiple mailings isn’t in your budget – this announcement card is a good option for an electronic or emailed version.
Here’s an Idea:
For your elopement day consider having your stationer create a keepsake invitation (for photographs, and as a memento) and other small stationery items, like vow books, and place cards.
What to do if…
You are planning a Reception/Celebration in the future (but having a small intimate ceremony this year)
Send out a…
Reception Invitation
This piece will often follow an Elopement Announcement card, especially if there is large date gap between the two. It’s up to you on how elaborate this card is. Some couples want to treat this as an all
out invitation with all the embellishments, or you may want to keep it simple and scaled back – it all depends on the feel of the celebration you’d like to portray.
Wording would be along the lines of:
The newlywed couple
Mr & Mrs. {Smith}
invite you to celebrate their marriage
Reception will take place {date}
{time, location, details}
This wording leaves no doubt that you are already married and are wishing to celebrate with your guests.
Here’s a Tip:
Don’t forget Thank You Cards – Along with these Reception invitations, you will also want to consider thank you cards. These can be done with or without a wedding photo. You may want to order these before your actual reception in the future so they are ready to distribute to those that may have attended your micro-wedding, or sent gifts before the reception.
And there you have it! Advice on the four main stationery situations you may be facing right now! Hopefully you found that helpful. Still searching for a wedding stationery designer? Check out our amazing vendor guide filled with amazing local Canadian vendors!
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Tips from the Pros
From Contributor,
Alissa from Plush Invitations
Hi! I’m Alissa, the owner/designer of Plush Invitations. I love helping out couples with their wedding stationery, bringing forth ideas and guidance and making the process as seamless as possible. I’ve been doing stationery design since 2012 and love to share my modern minded classic design (…with a few “extras”) aesthetic with planners and couples alike.
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